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1. Communicate Your Concerns
1. What You Need To Know About Anal Sex – The Pros And Cons Of Anal Sex
Takeaway: Pain is the major reason people don't do more butt stuff. Fortunately, it's often avoidable. What is the first thing you think about when someone mentions anal sex? Is it untold pleasure? Is it sensuous closeness? Is it discovering unknown intimacy? Could it even be the best orgasms you can have? Probably not. If you've never tried it, you've probably been told it is going to hurt. If you've seen it in porn, you probably think an insane acrobatic session is about to unfold.
Does Anal Sex Hurt?
Going from having nothing up your ass ever to suddenly a whole penis can be jarring in many ways. The rumors are true: Anal does have the possibility of getting messy. If you want extra peace of mind, make sure the surface you and your partner engage on is comfortable and washable. Sure, the idea of a numbing cream that protects you from feeling any potential pain during anal is nice, but the risk for injury down the line is not worth it. Take any pressure to perform off yourself by trying penetrative anal sex alone first. Get a toy and a condom for easier cleanup and go at your own pace. Either way is a hundred percent fine, and if he keeps pressuring you when you have made it clear that it is not on the table, tell him to suck it. Before embarking on the full monte of penetrative anal sex, you can—and should! This is open to interpretation and could mean anything from toys to fingers or mouths.
Sex should be fun, but it can also be complicated. Welcome to Sexual Resolution , a biweekly column by sex therapist Vanessa Marin to answer your most confidential questions and help you achieve a healthy, joyful sex life. In this edition, she answers a reader who wants to have anal sex but whose partner has a big penis. She's nervous about the potential for pain, but Vanessa has some helpful tips. Have your own question? Ask it here.